Posted by
ShaneRoach on Friday, June 05, 2009 12:07:16 AM
Gay rights activists claim that marriage is not about family, children,
and financial issues unique to men and women. When you point out that
this is in fact exactly what marriage is about, and what it always has
been about, they claim that this is a weak argument because it merely
appeals to old, tired traditions that have no current use in a modern
and enlightened society.
The argument is demonstrably not, "it's always been done that way." No
one has shown that there is no longer a need to regulate heterosexual
sex and the resultant children in some way to ensure the child is taken
care of and the finances are arranged fairly. No one has shown how a
gay couple, who will either never have children, or if they do will
have them in such a controlled way that they can negotiate every aspect
of who takes care of what, is the same as a male and female couple for
whom at the very least the role of mother and father are defined during
child bearing, and generally speaking beyond that in various tangible
ways.
No one has shown how these roles are obsolete. Indeed, despite
repetition of the same assertion about marriage changing, no one has
really shown any fundamental way that it has.
What has been shown is that many liberals will just repeat the charge, "you are making an argument from tradition."
Appeal to tradition - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Study the actual use of this term, "appeal to tradition." We who
oppose gay marriage are not arguing that traditional marriage values
were proven right at
their inception.We're arguing that marriage by definition has been
about kids and finances. Whether or not this was the correct way to go
is not necessary to refute the oft stated opinion that marriage has
nothing to do with kids and finances.
Now I move on to the assertion that marriage is no longer about
kids and finances. Well, in fact, if you look at the laws governing
marriage, they are indeed about kids and finances, or more precisely,
the laws about dissolving a marriage are about kids and finances.
If we move on to the assertion that marriage is not MOSTLY about kids
and finances. Again, looking at the laws governing the institution, all
of them are about kids and finances.
How about the assertion, "marriage is also about love and romance."
Looking at the laws governing the issue, none of them are about love
and romance.
How about, "marriage is a spiritual issue that the government has no business interfering with."
In that case, we look at the laws preventing people from getting
spiritual marriages within their own faith traditions. Such laws are
nonexistent.
So, we know from the past that marriage was about kids and finances, we
know the laws currently on the books, so much as they exist, are about
kids and finances, and we know that there are no limits on spiritual
marriages.
We know that homosexuals come by their children, if they have any at
all, in a functionally different way than heterosexuals, and we know
that they have more control over this than heterosexuals do.
We know that homosexuals, as far as gender inequalities are concerned,
do not have any legal issues. We know that gender inequalities exist in
every heterosexual marriage.
We know that for the most part, homosexuals come into a relationship
with independent lives, and leave that relationship equally
independent. If there have been any decisions for one to, for example,
sacrifice career and stay at home, this is fully negotiable between
them, and any financial issues can easily be negotiated along with such
decisions. We know with heterosexual couples, no matter how hard they
may wish it to be otherwise, women are always going to be the ones
getting pregnant, and men are by extension more often going to be the
ones in a situation to maintain an uninterrupted career. We know that
women still make less than men on average, and sometimes even make less
than men for doing the same job.
We know from psychology that men and women fulfill different roles in a
heterosexual family. We know homosexuals will not be able to fill those
roles. One of the two will be excluded.
Everything we know from antiquity to the present dictates that there
are indeed differences between gay and heterosexual couples as they
pertain to living together, having a child, raising that child, and
separating from one another. There are actually almost no similarities
between gay couples and heterosexual couples other than the fact that
they have sex and feel emotions.
This is not what the law concerning marriage is about.
Add to that the atrocious damage done to our society by high divorce
rates brought on by sexually libertine behavior introduced from the
exact same political influences as the ones now pushing gay marriage,
and what I see is a big, flashing red warning sign stating, "DO NOT
ENTER".
We've been here before. We've actually been here dozens of times over
the past few decades where divorce, sex, porn, and other moral issues
related to sex have been sold to us as progress, and instead have done
great damage.
In response to this, what we often hear is, "well, that's just an
argument from tradition," from people who do not use the phrase in the
same way as it has traditionally been used.
I think the traditional understanding of what an argument from tradition is holds.